To Eric, After years of research, I, a 47-year-old woman, was given a rare fatal illness diagnosis three years ago. My time frame is roughly six to ten years. I don’t have any close pals or family. My neighbor, who doubles as my housekeeper, is the only person I see, and only then. I don’t know where to go or what to do, and I feel completely alone, lonely, and desperate.
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To the Company: I’m so sorry. It must be really difficult for you to feel hopeful given the loneliness you’re experiencing and the disease you’re dealing with. Thank you for getting in touch.
Even though your condition is uncommon, you are not alone in your feelings, and sharing some of your emotional journey—both the good and the bad—with people who can relate will be beneficial. Please research support organizations for individuals dealing with terminal and life-threatening conditions. These kinds of groups might also help you feel less alone and build friendships.
Despite how pervasive your sickness may be, your life is more than it. Consider your interests, causes you support, and topics you’ve always wanted to study, then make a commitment to pursuing one or more of them. This could take the form of volunteering or, if feasible, enrolling in an online or in-person course. It’s critical to confirm for yourself that the things you are interested in or care about are important. Additionally, you will meet others who have similar interests to yours and can help you feel less alone if you do this.
I am aware that you are going through a really trying period. Even without the additional suffering of a terminal illness, a great many of us find it difficult to overcome social isolation. But for you, this is not the end of the path. Please try one tiny thing at a time, like finding a group or enrolling in a class. A glimmer of optimism can be sparked just by attempting.
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