Greetings, Abby I’ve been dating this person for eleven months. After several years of being alone after painful breakups, this is our first relationship together.
He hasn’t cut his hair, left his residence, or interacted with anyone other than me—aside from texting—in our whole relationship.
Even though he doesn’t come see me, he always lets me in. He continually finds an excuse to stay indoors, even if we had talked about going out.
I eventually came to the conclusion that they were only pretexts. His mother and I are concerned, but he says he’s all right. She told me that after his split and COVID, he turned into this person.
My partner says he wants to get married and start a family, and he always appears content with me. In addition, he declares his love for me and his wish to be with me. He appears to be a totally different person on social media, but that was all before his separation. What ought I to do? In Michigan, discouraged
Stories by
Abigail Van Buren
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Dear Abby: I can t face going back to the church that fired me from my job at Christian school
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Dear Abby: Bride wants mom and aunt to walk her down the aisle despite mom s objections
DISCOURAGED: Speak up because this man was someone else before his split and the COVID pandemic, and his mother is also concerned about him.
People who stop grooming themselves and lose interest in activities they used to do may be depressed; his doctor could help him with it.
Tell your reclusive boyfriend that you have been patient with him for over a year and that he needs to see a licensed mental health expert about his dread of leaving his house if he wants to keep seeing you. He won’t recover without expert assistance, and this could end up being your life as well.
Greetings, Abby We spent the weekend at our new camper with my husband’s friends and their son. We continually urged their son to refrain from doing harm in front of his parents. I texted the woman about my husband’s actions after the weekend, at his insistence. My husband didn’t support me when her husband texted me about it. When I was on vacation, my daughter claimed to have overheard him tell the man on the phone that it was all me and that they were welcome to return. I was enraged.
Even now, three years after that incident, my husband continues to spend time with them. In order for us to be friends once more, he has requested me to apologize. Is it incorrect of me to insist that he lie, that he wanted that text written, and that it wasn’t just me? I want him to support me as he ought to. TICKED-OFF WIFE
Greetings, wife: Admit it. After setting you up, your hubby chickened out. He seems to have a wet noodle in place of his backbone. You have every right to want him to come clean, but don’t count on it. Regarding this matter, your spouse is more concerned with appeasing his friend than with your personal opinions. I feel sorry for you.
Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
