Greetings, Abby I recently bought a new house and am a divorced single mother.
After returning from college a few years ago, my daughter, who is 23 years old, is reluctant to move out. Although I am aware that she is saving money and that rental costs are high, I am unable to continue living with her.
Our lifestyles couldn’t be more different, Abby. Being a slob, my daughter disobeys my requests to keep her room and bathroom, which doubles as our guest bathroom, clean and organized. Her room is filthy! On her days off, she spends the entire day glued to her phone. (She works and participates in church activities.)
Instead of losing my mind every time she treats me disrespectfully, how do I force her to move? All I want is a clean, orderly home where I may live in peace. — DISCOVERED IN FLORIDA
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Talk to your daughter calmly. Make it clear that you are no longer willing to have her live with you because she is now an adult and her lifestyle differs greatly from yours. Set a time for her to go out and offer to assist her find another place to live. You might have to begin a formal eviction if she continues to resist.
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