To Eric, My hair has been cut and tinted by my gorgeous hairstylist for many years. I’ve been happy with her work until lately, but the last two times, I didn’t like the cuts. I tried a different hairstylist that a friend suggested while she was away, and I was quite pleased with the outcome.
Simply not returning and saying nothing is the simple answer. But rather than simply ignoring her, I think I owe her greater respect and gratitude. She has told me about a client who left after being her client for a long time, and she is perplexed as to why, so I know she will be really upset if I talk to her about moving to a new location. Should I write a letter, break things off in person, with or without cookies, or wait until I’m certain the new guy will work out before saying anything?
A Hairy Situation
Stories by
R. Eric Thomas
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Asking Eric: I m afraid we ll be held responsible for slacker BIL after my husband s mother dies
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Asking Eric: I ve pushed my adult son to get a better job so he can move out, but he s very resistant
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Asking Eric: Large family birthday plans get paused when eldest sister invites someone they don t know
To the Situation: An in-person breakup is the considerate thing to do if you’re committed to the new hair stylist. Cookies are suggested but not required. But I’m curious if you could provide your first stylist some helpful criticism; it might help her get the outcomes you desire. It’s possible that she is stubborn or has a certain notion about your hair that no longer suits you.
Checking in to see if both sides are still on the same page can be helpful at times, just like in any relationship. I assume this isn’t a skill issue because she has been cutting your hair for years. Give her the benefit of the doubt if you think she can accomplish it but she hasn’t done it the previous two times. To test the waters and speak things out, you might even enter before it’s time for a cut. I wouldn’t take the lead with Look at this look I got from someone else? I want that. However, a cordial discussion based on your long-standing bond might help you achieve the appearance you desire.
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